I just had my daughter 3 months ago, almost 4. She was born New Years day (Janruary 1st) this year. Now, I just found out I'm pregnant again! I'm 20 years old, I'll be 21 in September. I didn't have a hard pregnancy at all with Lilly, my daughter. It took us a year and a half to get pregnant with her, I just thought I'd have a lot more time. I love my daughter more than anything in the world and I wonder how not only I, but she will handle this whole thing. Please help!
Well....good luck. I have a friend who just had her 4th baby the end of December...and her oldest had just turned 3 the beginning of December. So it is possible. She actually really enjoyed it. As she puts it she is getting it all out of the way early, so all her kids will be able to do things together. She said taht she never wanted to wait between children...what fun would it be to have a 5 year old that always wants to be on the go and a newborn? I do hope that you have a good support system though...that always helps!
My support system is actually what I'm really worried about. I've already told evryone on my husbands side of the family. But my side of the family is going to have a melt down, I just know it. They were extremely dissapointed in me when I was 19 and got pregnant with Lilly. They love her to death now, but said I was holding myself back (in life) by getting pregnant. I needed to go to college etc. This pregnancy is going to just crush them completely.
Well the truth is, its not going to be easy for you, but after the first few months I've known moms that love their kids so close together. My friend had a baby in Nov of 2004 and got preg when he was 3 months old. The new baby was just born Nov 2005. The older boy actually is doing sooo great with him. There wasnt really any jealousy and she didnt do anything to prepare him (ie a baby doll). The only problem is, is that he wants to play with him and throws him toys ect... So he's not very gentle. So congrats on your new suprise. You can always come to us for support. I'm also 21...I did finish college with my little boy (babies dont have to hold you back so tell them to chill) ~HUGZ~
As hard as it will be, I am sure you will manage. It will take some time getting used to, I am sure, but if your family embraced your first, they will embrace any and all babies you have. As far as a baby holding you back on college...now you have time! While babies nap or are chill, take a few online courses. No time like the present...And there are a ton that let you do what you can when you can...Congrats on the impending arrival!
I just wanted to thank everyone for their sweet words and support. I've gotten more support up here than I have from my own family and I appreciate that. I think I'm atleast 2 months along now and we're really looking forward to having this baby. Despite some of the negative things we've heard from family. Because I'm pregnant again and not getting an abortion, like what most of my family says I should do, my father has decided not to speak to me anymore. But that's fine, I only need love and support in my life right now and if he's not willing to give it, it's best he not be around. But, the good news is we're moving on Friday. Which we're really excited about. We're trying to stay positive and we're actually hoping for a little boy this time.So, thank you guys soo much, I appreciate your support more than you can imagine.
As Always,
Christine, Lilly, and the little one on the way!
I can't say that i understand what you are going through. But if it doesn't kill you it will only make ou stronger right? I just wanted to say good luck with everything, and I truly am happy for you!!~Crystle and Trevor
My first 2 are 15 months apart
My second 2 are 12 months apart
I love it. It is very hard at first. Once you figure out a schedule for the kids everything will be fine. I love having mine so close together. They play really good together and I know when they are older they will run around with the same group of friends. I would love to have 1 more.
Good luck and Congrats
I know what you're going thru! My little girl is seven months old and we are expecting our second in Oct. They will be 13 months apart. I know it going to be hard, but it's going to be hard no matter what. I'm 22 so I know how overwhelming it is. But we can do it!! Good Luck!!
Hi! I just wanted to let you know that I am 24 years old and I have...(drum roll) 5 kids.I had my first at 15 and my last at 21.And you can imagine the looks I got.But you know what?As long as you are happy and comfortable with it who cares what people think?I love growing up with my kids;) I see it like this as long as you are the one who takes care of them and you are responsible and you are supporting them no one has a right to say anything.I look at it like this when I'm 30 my oldest will be 15 and my youngest will be 9 so my kids will be old and I'll still be young!!! good luck and congratulations!!!
Having my kids so close together made them very close with each other.Of course they will have a lil spat once in a while but they are each others best friends and when you peek in their room to see what they are doing your going to wish you had 10 in a row!!! It really is worth all the stress (cause it can get stressful!) when you see them all laughing and playing and tickling each other.Your baby's love for you and each other is the greatest gift!And remember:Mother is God in her childs eyes!
Well, let's see..., we've moved to our new apartment and have been here a week. It's pretty nice and the best thing is being on our own. I have talked to my father a couple times now, but I don't think he wants to make a habit of it. I think it's just really hard for him to stay out of my life. Which isn't what I wanted or decided. He took me off his insurance, which was naval insurance. So right now me and Chris, my hubby, are trying to get our own. Which is killing me cause I'd love to go to the doctor and just know that everything is o.kay w/this baby. But, I'll just have to wait. Hopefully not too long though. Thank you guys again, I'll keep updating you and keep looking forward to hearing your supportive replies. Thank you soo much!
As Always,
Christine, Lilly, and the baby on the way!
mine are 21 months apart, and I'll tell you, the first month, was awful. I am 23 now, turning 24 in oct. I was depressed, and misreable. I couldn't believe I allowed myself to get pregnant the second time. I felt alone, and overwhelmed. BUT the good news is.....after that month, I got into a routine, and learned to handle both kids at the same time! I would breastfeed my son, while giving breakfast/lunch to my daughter in her highchair, while I too ate. Or, had him in a sling, while taking her for a walk around the block in her stroller...or coordinating their naps at the same time so I could have a few minutes of "me" time. It is stressful when they both cry at the same time 'cause they're both needing you, and you have to "neglect" one to be with the other. A big one is..you have to change one's diaper, so the other one that's crying just has to wait.
But with a pair of helping hands like a husband or a mother, it's a sinch. The only hard part is balancing out your home's chores, with the two kiddos since you usually finish with one, and start with the next over and over and over again. So chores are usually put on the back burner.
Good luck though. As far as the whole family thing....they'll get over it.
congrats!!!!!!!!! you are bringing in a new life....think positive.......you will figure it out......"it comes natural for women"...thats my husbands line......LOL LOL LOL.........i understand how you feel......i'm really worried about getting pregnant again, but its gods choice........just think a new baby, new personality! when your my age.."30" you'll be able to sit back and relax.......instead of having to wipe noses and butts....LOL LOL LOL LOL......your family will come around as soon as they hold this baby in their arms and realize its their new grandchild.......just watch...the love will grow so fast in your parents eyes, they will forget they were ever mad at you............
I have a 14 month old and a two month old. Both are boys. They were soppouse to be 14 months apart however, Caleb my youngest was born 4 1/2 weeks early!
It is not easy at times. But it is well worth it! Good luck!
